The blog challenge I am working on started its DAY 4 email with:
“Before we go on, we want to make something very clear: the whole point of this challenge is to build your consistent writing habit so you start to give your ideas room to grow and share them with others.
We see that as the most powerful self-discovery process on the planet. You’ll start to learn what excites you, what others resonate with and how you can combine those two to build a career around something you care about.”
It continued with,
The more we can identify our life’s highlights, the better we’ll be able to notice the patterns in our actions and thinking that led to those outcomes. Shoot for that minimum 100 word limit and ideally write this first thing in the morning, before distractions hit.”
—-LYL blog challenge DAY 4
All sounded great! I love writing, but, well, we have a love/hate sort of thing. I get distracted and blather on and on and then have to edit like mad, cutting out so much squirrel chatter it is exhausting and time consuming. (Larry and I find each others company amusing. We stay up way too late to talk.)
Why NOT just stay up late? Why fight the night owl urge?
Here’s the rub:
(Young children + mornings + staying up too late writing) x posting publicly to my blog = a cranky mommy/wife with blog anxiety.
Once my family wakes up, my writing intentions get very little priority until after they all go to bed at night. My children want my undivided attention. My husband needs a parenting partner. My work is flexible, but still has need of my time!
So how do I make blog writing a habit? It’s only been a week and I am still at it, but WOW, I had no idea how ridiculously hard this would be for me. I cannot write and multitask. It is all consuming. I’ve been resisting the “wake up early!” method as I’ve never have been one much for mornings.
Here’s today’s writing prompt: What do people thank you for?
The point of this question is to give some thought to the ways you help people with your talents, skills and passions that you might not be realizing (or giving yourself credit for). Another way to look at it is “What do you love helping people with,” or “What would you be happy and excited to help others with even if you didn’t get paid?”
I usually love writing prompts. They make me think, something I love to do. But this prompt: What do people thank you for? It stumped me a bit. My short answer was: I am thoughtful. I help and work hard. I am a fierce friend and a huge cheerleader of others’ passions.
That seemed quite generic, so I emailed a friend for feedback. She said: “I am thankful for your abundant empathetic generosity.” Yea! Thank you! Warm fuzzy feelings! But how does this lead to “talents, skills, and passions?”
I’m still basically stumped about the prompt, BUT I have found a bit more self knowledge as a result of this prompt and blog challenge. I need accountability to force me to distill and simplify my ideas into actions. All fine and good to think about this prompt, but if I did not take action on my commitment to write a blog post, well, what was the purpose of the blog prompt anyway? Thank you LYL for being my Accountability Partner. I knew I needed one. I just didn’t know how badly I did! You see:
I’ve been dreaming. I’ve been reading. I’ve been thinking. I’ve been planning.
I’ve been convincing myself that these things were preparation for doing something great. BUT I never put anything into action. I knew I was an Obliger according to happiness and habit author, Gretchen Rubin . I need accountability. But who was holding me acountable for getting an accountability partner? See how that was a problem?
So here’s my internal dialog when my brain geared up to think about this prompt and write a blog post:
…Nothing gets me more excited than letting my mind wrap itself around a complex idea, feeling, or question…Awesome…So…What do people thank me for? …Trying to see it from every angle and perspective…hours pass…got to get on with my day..feed the kids… cats… schoolbus… work… Hmmmm…Write a bit…Thankful for….Helping others excites me…creative big picture thinking…Processing and trouble shooting Ideas and plans excites me…Email my friend for some input/feedback… hmmm…Helping with almost anything and everything…Dirty, hard, physical work is cathartic… got to go to work and work on landscaping project…Talent for coming up with creative solutions… wow!…a cool idea for a community garden …usually a long and winding process…Thank me for what?…get lost in the connecting the dots… can I write/get a grant for urban vertical gardening scheme? …I get distracted easily and find it hard to finish tasks …Full of thanks?…Skills?…My mind Jumps… Starts one place ends up somewhere else entirely. …Hops somewhere else to help with something else… hmmm…Help others process their problems? My world becomes a blur of thoughts…I love this process, but it is neither direct nor simple nor fast… This thinking is fun!… Rarely is there a simple yes or no answer… all a matter of perspective…attitude… hmmm… My process for thinking makes many people NUTS, mainly my husband…Takes forever to put ideas into action…I blame it on Larry the squirrel… Yes…The chatter in my head is made by a squirrel, named Larry… I know he is in there… Why can’t I get my thoughts in order…so many distractions…I think I’ll start a sewing project… no I have to clean the bathroom… yes…need to clean…
Soon…happy fun thinking become worrisome because I am not taking action on my commitment to write the post and publish it!…arghh… No action equals anger, frustration, shame…and Larry the happy distracted squirrel turns to the dark side…
…he starts chittering: “Yeah, but you can also be thoughtless, and often so distracted. You never finish anything. Talents? Skills? Ha! You are erratic, moody and often judgemental, impatient.. You get too serious about the simple tasks of life and lose sight of the joy and fun in things. You are way too practical and a bit of a worrier… and…also… but… chit,chit,chit.”
So I may not know what people thank me for. I may not know what my talents, skills, and passions are. BUT trying write this blog post made one thing CLEAR. If people only knew, they’d thank me for keeping Larry on a short leash. If I want to find what I am capable doing and start leading a life I can be proud of, then Larry needs to be trained to be still and quiet.